Padre Peregrino – Love and Respect by St. John Chrysostom.

Many couples have been helped by a book called Love & Respect: The Love She Most Desires; The Respect He Desperately Needs. It was written in 2004 by Emerson Eggerichs, a non-Catholic but Christian author.Here’s the basic online description: Women primarily need love, whereas men primarily need respect. Husbands and wives are wired differently, so misunderstandings often arise not from malice, but from missing the other’s core need.According to Eggerichs, the “Crazy Cycle” is when a wife feels unloved, she reacts in ways that feel disrespectful to her husband. In response, he reacts in ways that feel unloving to her, causing a destructive cycle. The “Energizing Cycle,” on the other hand, is when a husband shows love (even without experiencing respect from her.) Then, the wife is likely to respond with respect. Similarly, when a wife shows respect (even without feeling love), the husband is likely to respond with affection and warmth to her.

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